The Journey: Don’t miss those family moments


By Samantha Brazie, The Journey

Howdy, Paper readers! Ready for the next column? This is something that has been a topic of conversation at least since 2012 when a Huffington Post article written by Alison Slater Tate went viral, encouraging husbands to take more pictures of their wives, even when their wives don’t want them to. I believe this is something that men and women alike struggle with and I am here to share my Journey in this process and why I believe that article couldn’t be truer.

I have shared pieces of my Journey with you over the last few months, and this is another part of it. I don’t think I’ve ever come across a person that has not or does not currently struggle with self esteem or body image issues. Up until three years ago, like many others, I did not want to be in pictures. I did not want to have to look at myself and see what I felt I looked like to the world. So, I avoided any and every picture I could. I reluctantly posed in a few for my company, and my husband caught me in a few when I didn’t realize he was taking them at birthday parties, etc. A large majority of the ones I was ‘caught’ in, ended up being thrown away or deleted because I hated them.

What I didn’t realize then was that I was stealing moments away from my loved ones. Pictures are an amazing way to capture a snapshot in time, and I took those away from my kids, my friends and other special people in my life – not being selfish on purpose – but selfish, nonetheless.

Three years ago, I started looking through pictures and realized how many years I have missing with my family and friends. I have a gazillion pictures of my kids, but I might be in five of them between 2006-2012. It was then that I decided to make a huge change. Not only would I get in the picture, but I would take them – including pictures of just me.

So I take pictures, A LOT OF THEM … and I’m proud of myself for that. My body dysmorphic disorder is close to being nonexistent and that came from a couple of years of counseling, being honest with myself (as hard as it was) and knowing that if I want to change something – it’s all up to me.

So ladies and fellas … whether your hair looks perfect, you’re dressed in gym clothes, skin is on point, etc. – don’t miss those moments. You won’t see how ‘sloppy’ or ‘ugly’ you think you look in ten years. You’ll simply appreciate that you captured a memory over time.

Celebrate where you are in your life, in your Journey. If for no one else, do it for your loved ones. We pass our self-concept on to those we influence in life. Your self-talk is contagious, one way or another – don’t you want to encourage the ones that matter most to you to be the best version of themselves they can be?

Questions? Comments? Email me at [email protected].

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